Dearest Suzie
The Story of An American Inheritance
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Fish, Pharmaceuticals, & Phil | All Episodes
May 24th, 2025 | 35 mins 11 secs
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In this personal narrative episode of Dearest Suzie, we step away from the war letters and into a birthday dinner in suburban Florida—a setting that slowly reveals a decades-spanning story of intergenerational trauma, systemic failure, and the quiet desperation that leads ordinary people to seek help from extraordinary places.
What begins as a quiet evening with Mary, an 81-year-old matriarch, becomes a window into the life of her granddaughter Jessica and the four children caught in a cycle of addiction, poverty, and state neglect. As Mary asks the narrator to write to Dr. Phil on her behalf, the request opens a floodgate of stories—of parental abuse, foster care instability, broken judicial processes, and bureaucracies that punish the people trying hardest to help.
This is a story about how systems fail families, how good intentions become entangled in red tape, and why, when institutions collapse, people turn to outsiders—TV doctors, political strongmen, or anyone who feels like they might finally listen.
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An Interview with Suzie
May 10th, 2025 | 1 hr 2 mins
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In this special episode of Dearest Suzie, we step away from the battlefield and into the memory, voice, and wisdom of the woman who saved the letters. Recorded over Zoom, this episode features a heartfelt conversation with my grandmother, Susan “Mema” Lowie, about her life before, during, and after the Vietnam War. It’s a deeply personal portrait of a woman whose love, strength, and honesty made this entire project possible.
Mema talks candidly about her childhood in Manville, New Jersey, her parents’ struggles with mental illness and alcoholism, and her early marriage to Bill “Popi” Lowie. Together we revisit the places they lived—Fort Bragg, Fort Ord, Munich—and the years she raised three young boys while Popi flew missions in Vietnam. We talk about memory, marriage, the lingering cost of war, and what it means to tell the truth, even when it hurts.
This interview is about the things we inherit that aren't always written down: silence, resilience, pain, and love.